Further Reading


Boyes, Alice. (2015). Anxiety Toolkit: Strategies for Fine-Tuning Your Mind and Moving Past Your Stuck Points. New York: Penguin.

A former clinical psychologist and researcher-turned-writer talks about how we can better manage and move forward with anxiety

Alter, R. (2011). Anxiety and the Gift of Imagination: A New Model for Helping Parents and Children Manage Anxiety. Thornhill: Alter Psychology.

Practical advice on managing the anxiety that can result from "runaway imagination."


Real, T. (1997). I Don't Want to Talk About It: Overcoming the Secret of Male Depression. New York: Scribner.

A classic that talks about overt and covert depression

Burns, D. (1993). Ten Days to Self-Esteem: In 10 Exciting Steps You Will Learn How to Do. New York: Harper-Collins.

Workbook type publication providing practical guide to promoting happiness and well-being


Siegel, D. & Hartzell, M.(2004). Parenting from the Inside Out: How a Deeper Self-Understanding Can Help You Raise Children Who Thrive. N.Y: Penguin.

Tsabary, S. (2010). The conscious Parent: Transforming ourselves, empowering our children. Vancouver: Namaste.

Tsabary, S. (2017). The Awakened Family:  How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children. New York: Penguin.

Damour, L. (2016). Untangled: Guiding Teenage Girls Through the Seven Transitions into Adulthood. New York: Penguin Random House.

Shanker, S. (2016). Self-Reg: How to Help Your Child (and You) Break the Cycle and Successfully Engage in Life. Canada: Penguin Random House

The number of books in this section speaks to the importance of supportive curious parenting to raise healthy children

Being Different and the importance of self-acceptance:

Attwood, T., Grandin, T., and others (2016). Asperger’s and Girls: World renowned experts join those with Asperger’s syndrome to resolve issues that girls and woman face every day! Arlington: Future Horizons.

A collection of readable essays helping us understand the special challenges faced by Autistic women

Mate, G. (1999, 2012). Scattered Minds: The origins and healing of attention deficit disorder. Toronto: Vintage Canada.

Physician, author, and sought after speaker talks about his own ADHD and links the condition with the importance of attentive, benevolent parenting

An Autistic mental health worker provides a website where people can explore how OK it is to be different: www.sociophenomenal.com

Women and Girl Power:

Pipher, M. (2005) Reviving Ophelia: Saving the Selves of Adolescent Girls. New York: Riverhead Books.

A therapist talks about the "girl-poisoning" dangers of the many expectations placed on girls by society and how we can rediscover our resilient, powerful selves

Trauma and invalidation is often a bigger part of our emotional pain than we realize. Various kind of abuse can have a lasting impact on our body and mind:

van der Kolk, Bessell (2015).  The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma. New York: Penguin.

Comprehensive discussion of the sometimes devastating impact of abuse by a pioneering trauma researcher

Walker, Pete (2014). Complex Trauma: From Surviving to Thriving (A guide and map for recovering from childhood trauma).Lafayette: Azure Coyote.

An experienced therapist with his own developmental trauma shares a practical guide for healing and recovery

Shame is deeply rooted feelings of unworthiness that result when we are abused and invalidated, especially as children growing up:

Bradshaw, J. (2005). Healing the Shame that Binds You. Deerfield Beach: Health Communications

Famed pastor, author, and television host describes family patterns that result in shame, the way we cope, and helpful recovery strategies


Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment and How It Can Help You Find - And Keep - Love. New York: Penguin.

Relates adult patterns of distress with different styles of attachment (relationship behaviours grounded in level of emotional safety with primary caregivers)


Mate, G. (2012). When the Body Says No: The Cost of Hidden Stress. Toronto: Vintage.

A lively and personal exploration of stress and the body/mind connection


Dayton, T. (2000). Trauma and Addiction: Ending the Cycle of Pain Through Emotional Literacy. Deerfield Beach: Health Communications.

Frames addiction as a common way of responding to trauma and sees compassionate self-care as the best path to recovery

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